Dating by the signs
And not in that whole “oh, they’re my soulmate and my BFF” kinda way, but like, your friend.In a perfect world, you’d approach this person, and tell them that you just want to be the greatest of friends, and then they’d laugh and tell you they felt the same way. Especially if you’re pretty sure that you and your partner aren’t exactly living the fairy tale romance you’ve been holding out for.It happens to everyone now and again: You find yourself dating someone who is totally great, but there’s something that’s not very…hot about it.You’ve likely been ignoring the signs that you should just be friends with the person you’re dating.During one of my recent online chats, a reader expressed apprehension about dating someone with student loans. “I am debt-free thanks to various factors, some related to hard work and much related to luck. ] “She still has student debt, recently consolidated, as well as some credit card debt (almost all gone),” the reader added. But I’ve bailed out significant others before and I have vowed to never do that again without being married.My parents could help me pay for college,” the reader wrote. The differences in our financial standing are real, and it’s hard for me not to get judgmental sometimes about her decisions when I’m all about aiming to be debt-free.Your mind tells you that this is probably not true, but we push this to the back of our minds.
At least the image that he/she gives to the outside world.
What do you do when your significant other is struggling under the weight of student loans? Could you bring yourself to marry someone with substantial student loans?
Ion Tuition, which provides an online debt-management service for students, conducted a survey of 1,000 American adults to determine how student debt plays out in dating. Seventy-five percent of survey respondents viewed student loan debt as “baggage.” And 12 percent said they’d be more concerned about high levels of education loans than if a prospective partner had a child, was divorced or had a record as a nonviolent felon.
But there’s never any “date night,” or desire to make one happen. You’ll feel so much better when you call it off and decide to just be best friends.
Figuring out if a boy liked you in elementary school was easy: You sent him a note saying, "Do you like me?